Get Over It

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Today I laughed. I laughed because someone had said something funny.  The person I was talking to, said to me; “Wow, it’s good to see you laughing.  Glad you are over it”. I stopped laughing and looked at her.  In my head, I wanted to scream “WTF? That was a horrible thing to say.” What she was referring to as “it” was the death …

Hope

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Cheryl,  I had the honor of photographing your sweet Mariana today. At first, I felt guilty and melancholic for I would get to do what was taken from you.  For I would hold her in my arms and gaze upon her face. Pictures were wrapped up and we were getting ready to leave.  Mariana, who had stayed awake throughout, was sleeping peacefully.  My man …

6 degrees of separation

6 Degrees Of Separation

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6 Degrees of Separation is the idea that any one person on the planet is connected to another by 6 or fewer social connections. A couple of days ago, we met with a childhood friend of David’s and we were asked how we first met.  Telling people we met at a funeral is technically the right answer, it isn’t the right one.  How we …

Grief

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“Are you ok”? I may tell you, yes, but inside I am screaming in agony.  I am trying to get through a day without letting on to the world the pain I feel.  Life, plans, daily routine, have come to a screeching halt.  I may be going about the motions of work, conversation, daily needs but I am not ok.  I am trying to …

No Words

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Several months ago I started a blog post entitled “When Your Bestie Says It’s Going to Hurt!” The story behind it was a phone call I received one afternoon at work from my best friend.  It went like this: “instead of a walk at lunch, how about you get out early, I made us an appointment”.  I replied, sure.  That was my first mistake.  …

Concussion

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My chiropractor is starting a brain injury clinic and asked me to share my story with others.  She sent me the following questions: How would you describe yourself? Are you a ____? (ex: mom, retire, businesswoman, etc) How do you refer to yourself having a previous concussion? “Marilee Curran is a writer with a fighting spirit. One who tries to balance her life through …

9/11 Remembrance – Little Boy Lost

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For the past 20 years, a photo has sat on my desk at work This photo is not spectacular, or remarkable.  It is a photo taken by a 10-year-old boy on the ferry in NY heading out to Ellis Island.  It was shot with a disposable camera, it is fading, but it is a memory embedded in my mind.  The photo is of the …

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The Path

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Don’t focus on how far you have to go, focus on how far you have come, and then keep going – unknown What is Occipital Neuralgia?  That was my question to the Neurologist.  I had never heard of this condition, nor did I realize in February just how much it was going to impact my life.  The official definition given by the American Association …

Twin Flame

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David gave me another challenge.  Pick the 1 photo that I took to summarize our 1 year together.  This may seem like a simple task, but unfortunately, I can’t do it.  We have had so many adventures this past year, that I have captured, I just can’t pick one.  He on the other hand probably has designed an entire portfolio.  Therefore, I decided to …

Today I Walked Among Them

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Today I walked among them.  Standing in rows and columns, spaced precisely apart.  Straight at attention, in death, as they were in life. Twice a day for the past 7.5 years I have passed them.  They silently peer out at me as I drive by.  Surrounded by flowers and flags, as neatly spaced as they are.   They are warmed by the heat of the …

The Unforgotten Soldier

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All Gave Some, Some Gave All.  You Are Not Forgotten. 70 years ago today a 19-year-old medic, named Clarence, went missing during the May Massacre in Kungwong So Korea.   My mother had just turned 5 years old and was waiting for her uncle to come home to celebrate her birthday as he had promised.  Instead, in Middlebury, Vt an empty casket lays in a …

What A Mother Wants

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What does Mom want for Mother’s Day? It’s Mother’s Day and the question comes up, what to get mom for Mother’s Day.  The answer is so simple and often overlooked.  I am your mom.  I don’t want trinkets, cards or flowers, although always appreciated.  I don’t need to spend a day to myself in a spa, nor do I need you to make special …

Ode To My Brother (From the same Mother. And Father)

Ode To My Brother (From the same Mother. And Father)

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“You’ve got to be kidding”, You said to our mother. “You brought home a sister, I wanted a brother”! For months you would tell, Everyone you did see. This is my sister, Her name’s Timothy. Eventually, you warmed up, And the name it did change. However what you called me, Depended on the exchange. You taught me well dear brother. Unconditional love, Is often …

Cultural Appropriation

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What is Cultural Appropriation? The term Cultural Appropriation has become more prevalent in the past decade, but what does it mean?  Cultural Appropriation is the adoption of an element or elements of one culture by another culture or identity.  So for example, certain styles of dancing, changing religious or spiritual beliefs, wearing certain hairstyles, or dressing in clothing from another country can lead to …

Brain Waves

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The brain is a fascinating and complicated organ. Thoughts Warrior has been quiet for a while as I have been going through diagnosis and treatment for a concussion. A beautiful day and planned photoshoot turned into a day of tangled metal and tangled brain. Back story events: It was a beautiful sunny day last month and we decided to track down and capture a …

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Matthew

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In the summer of 1990, my brother-in-law, Matthew came to stay at his parents house for what he knew would be his final summer. Matthew had been battling AIDS, then so new, and with so much stigma back then. He had missed our wedding the summer before with “food poisoning”, but he wanted to be home that summer. He had the hope of hanging …